The loss of a gay friend

It’s a terrible thing to lose a friend, and especially when there is nothing we can do to remedy the situation. Sometimes we have to lovingly let people go.

During the twenty years I was living as a non-Christian my friends were all unbelievers. I still treasure the relationships I made then, though many have drifted away and others have chosen to break the ties.

Here’s a message I received from someone I’d known and loved for 15 years:

I’m flabbergasted! Gay upsets you.
Enjoy your world.

Wrongly I had thought our friendship would continue throughout our lives.

This old friend doesn’t seem to understand that I as a Christian see her and love her as a person, not as a “gay” identity. So she projects onto me her rejection of the very idea of sexual right and wrong. I become the law of God, hated because it awakens the knowledge of sin. In her mind she has no choice but to accept the gospel, or reject me.

Please pray that God will open the eyes of this friend, and all of our loved ones near and far who are on the losing side of their war with God. If they remain unchanged, they will carry their hatred into the eternal beyond, and be separated from God forever.


Dear Lord, you are a patient God, not willing that any should perish, but that all would come to repentance. Forgive me for all the ways I fail to be a clear and honest messenger of your truth. Help me to do better. Please have mercy on my beloved friend. Open her eyes that she might see. Through Jesus Christ our precious Savior, and for His sake. Amen.

Alec Satin
Alec Satin

Your editor is a Bible-believing Christian with no illusions about our darkening age. Keep reading your KJV. If you don’t have one, get a printed copy with good type and read it every day. May God bless you, keep you, and protect you.